I am a huge TED Talk junkie. I love learning about new ideas and concepts and decided to share some of my favorite talks that relate to personal growth, emotional wellness, and happiness. Enjoy!
The Power of Vulnerability
An amazing talk by Brené Brown, a social worker and researcher, who explores vulnerability and discusses how our fear of vulnerability prevents us from whole-hearted living. Listen to her follow-up talk for more: Listening To Shame.
Why 30 Is Not the New 20
Meg Jay loves working with 20-somethings (as do I) and challenges them to enjoy this exploratory decade while making strategic decisions that will support the 30-somethings they hope to become.
How I Hacked Online Dating
For anyone who finds themselves growing cynical and weary as a result of online dating, Amy Webb offers a straight forward approach to online dating that you may not have already considered. Her straight-forward and analytical strategy is certainly worth a shot.
Confessions of a Depressed Comic
I love Kevin Breel’s honesty and real description of depression. He discusses his own suicidal ideation and shares how he has coped—how he has learned to survive the judgment of others, the stigma, and self-criticism. Very powerful.
It's almost the end of another year and for many, that means it is time for self-reflection. We are all fairly aware of our bad habits–overeating, drinking too much booze, not exercising, gossiping, smoking, and the list goes on ad infinitum. The typical resolutions tend to focus solely on changing undesirable behaviors, and therein lies the problem. In my opinion, New Year's resolutions are rarely successful because too much energy is wasted trying to simply modify behaviors and too little attention goes to resolving the underlying issues. So, how do you resolve the underlying issues? First, you work to increase self-awareness–you've got to understand why you do what you do before any changes will stick. Second, you've got to build your coping skills–expand how you deal with life and with relieve stress. It may take time and certainly a commitment, but by developing hobbies, interests, and a variety of outlets, the need for those undesirable behaviors is weakened. Think about it–if you are so interested in photography, love attending your weekly yoga class, and enjoy meeting newfound friends for evening walks, the need to de-stress by losing yourself in a pan of brownies may begin to ease. By understanding how you operate and working to build coping skills, many of those "bad habits may disappear all on their own!
To get started with this plan, it's a great idea to find a therapist or life coach who can help you work on the self-awareness piece. You can also begin building your coping skills arsenal by trying something new. Whether it is a hobby like jewelry making, a skill such as public speaking, or an activity like meditation, you can find resources online or in your community. I also recommend searching for continuing education courses at a community college or nearby university. You would be amazed what amazing and affordable options you will find.
For those living in Charlotte, NC, check out the following resources:
Carolina Learning Connection
Queens University Continuing Education
CPCC Personal Enrichment